I'm worth a million bucks!

I went to San Diego a couple of weeks ago to see Lisa Sasevich and she was talking about her mastermind group. She was discussing the benefits of joining and why it's the best business decision you could make.
I was totally psyched for this opportunity and wanted to partake so badly. As soon as she disclosed the financial investment I could feel my heart sink into my toes. The ultimate package was $100,000 and I felt so cheated. I had never been in an environment where women made that kind of money and didn't blink an eye at the investment. Right away my initial thought was "Are they calling home to ask their husband?" Propably not but that kind of investment was HUGE!!!! Yesterday I received an e-mail from Lisa talking about "Are you worth it?" The story hit home to me and made perfect sense. It's not so much investing the money and thinking she is making a killing but the investment is in you. I did it myself by taking the trip and making sacrifices to get to San Diego. The investment is YOU are you worth it? There is a bill board sign in my city that says "Live the life you were meant to live!!" The sign is for the casino of Windsor. Are you willing to make the investment in you and grow? As a coach I struggle with my rates and will people pay? Now I believe they will because it's not about me it's about them. We think it's about us but really it's not. If your client has issues with your rates it's their issue not yours. They are not willing to invest. I feel I am worth it and the time will come some day that $100,000 for a mastermind will happen. What is your worth?

Feeling out of Sync

Have you ever had that feeling where you feel in a funk? I feel this way today can't explain it and can't pin point it but pushing myself to get anything done. It could easily turn into a bad mood or I could shake it off and find a new perspective. I'll chose the new perspective. I am feeling that I take two steps forward and four steps back. Just when you think you might get ahead and get a break it's not what you thought it was. Today has been just that. I understand and know that when you have your own business it will be like that.
But some days are easier than others. It's the way it is.
I am treating myself with care today and not making everything a big deal. I notice that when I fall into this pattern I tend to do nothing and that makes it worse. It's o.k. to have days were you are not yourself and just be. I gave myself a pep talk and decided it might be a day to read, have a cup of tea, read a magazine or better yet paint my nails. Those are the times when the ideas flow when you take a break from your business.
Accept it and move on.

Faking it til' I make it...is it worth it?

You are guilty as much as I am for judgeing people and coming up to our own conclusions. Don't deny it you do!! Three years ago I belonged to MLM business and was drilled to fake it til' you make it. Even though you may be struggling and it's not going as well as you would like who cares fake it. I did. I faked it. There is a fine line between wanting to believe your successful or wanting others to believe you are. I faked it by the clothes I wore. People judge us by what we wear, the car we drive and so on. We really don't give a crap what education they have or how hard they worked to get where they are. I spent alot of money on suits to look the part but yet I was living a lie. Who was I kidding?  Myself?  To believe that I was successful? I am already and I don't need to put on act to have you convinced. I don't need your approval or needing it to feel that way. It takes so much energy to do that and I regret doing it. I have learned that I am who I am and take me as I am. If you have a problem with it there is not much that I can do for you. To what lengths will you go to be liked? Are they realistic? Are you afraid of being found out? Time to give up the act and be YOU!

The Demons Within...how to regain the focus!

I recall when I was in school for life coaching we had to describe our saboteur (inner critic) in detail. We were in a group setting and the woman I was with was shocked to hear my description because she actually thought this person was real. It is real and I have struggled for a long time to win the inner game of my demons. I tell my clients to ignore it and move on and don't give in. This past week for me has been a struggle.I am trying to follow my own advice. It's been a constant fight with myself and all of the what-iffing about my business. I am not feeding into it and doing my best that's all I can do. I notice the cycle and eliminate as soon as I see it coming. I take a piece of paper and write down the negative thought that I am having and replace it with a positive one. Getting that thought off of my mind frees me up of more space to be creative with and to release the negative. Everytime I notice that thought coming up I will re-read the paper. It works it did for me. It's essentially a bad habit and the more you dwell and focus on it the worse it will become. Take it from me it will. Another tip is to distract yourself and get busy....get moving. I've recently taken up gardening & it has become my outlet to relax and shut my brain off. What have you done to control your demons? Would love to hear.