Your Dreams are worth the fight!!!

As long as I can remember I have heard that you were not born with a silver spoon in your mouth. No kidding!! It's on rewind in my mind on how often I heard it. I have vision boards list of wants and the affirmations I use to keep me positive. I believe that our dreams are worth fighting for. Why not?
Nobody else wants what I want or has the desire to. For some they are content to shuffle through life
with a career that is o.k. and they barely can make ends meet. I always wanted to be the opposite to have  lofty goals and ideas and wanting to help people. I've been called stubborn bullheaded and  a YES person to anything. I would say YES to soon and then regret I did. I made serious mistakes financially but yet thankful that I did because there was a lesson to learn. I don't want to regret that I "should have" done that but was afraid. Fear freezes us from taking opportunities and they just pass on to someone else. The fight is worth it ...but also the frustration, pain and tears of struggling to get there. Where is there? I am looking and I will not give up. There is a path and abundance for all of us and I need to have faith. I have been down but yet I always feel a glimpse of hope that someday someone will see what I have to offer. I have a message to share now I am waiting to share it. It will happen I'm sure. What do you fight for?

Be real....be YOU!

I have wasted so much time and effort trying to please others and trying to fit in to what society thinks is acceptable. Why? Why do we do that to ourselves? I am tired of it and coming up with assumptions of "What are they thinking?" and the list goes on. I feel secure in myself to know that I treat people well and respect them and that's all I can do. I cannot and neither can you make someone like you. I can appreciate someone being authentically who they are and be comfortable with it. They have no disguise and they have no hidden agendas. They are sincere and brutally honest and that makes it a breeze to carve out a friendship with them. I have a friend that I steal her line from and she says.."Do you want me to tell you what you want to hear or the brutal honest truth?" I use it whenever I can and some people just cannot deal with the truth.
By being honest does that consider me a bitch? Some may say so but I like to know where I stand. We do not need to hide behind our masks to be loved, appreciated, accepted, hired and liked in this world. So much judgement and prejudices are being made. On what? Your beliefs and what you read and heard through social media. WE are a society of complex issues and how is a person to deal with all of it?
As a coach and a huge sponge for personal development many would rather live in denial than to deal with
their issues. We turn to our fixes, addictions, and self-loathing to fill that empty void. We all want to be accepted and heard. What do you feel is your purpose? Does it change and vary? Listen to your heart and listen closely for the message. I wish that all of you can live authentically and live your truth. I would love to hear what you have to say and what you want to read.

These shoes were made for therapy!

After feeling sorry for myself and indulging into too many foods I am guilty to tell you I put weight on. I was having a difficult time dealing with my dad having cancer, my daughter Lisa moving out and to boot I was starting career over at 40! I was over tapped and tiffed and so were my clothes. Nothing fit and the number on my pants was getting bigger and so was everything else. My self esteem was low and I needed to do something about it. I bought a pair of walking shoes the ones you heard of that help your rear and tone your legs. I went all out and bought them. I brought my I-pod laced up the shoes and off I went.  My thoughts dissapated from each step I took and over time my walks became my therapy. Time to reflect but also I enjoyed the peaceful time and taking care of my body and being outdoors. So much talk of how walking can relieve depression but yet taking the first step is the hardest. Getting yourself distracted from what is going on in your mind can help. It did for me. The result from the walking was yes a few pounds came off but the creative ideas that came for business was awesome. If only I had a pen and paper to write. Whoever would have thought that by simply getting exercise could make a world of difference! Now a days the joke at my home is that mom needs a GPS to find her way back home.

P.S. I have a secret!!!

I do & I bet you do too and everyone else does and won't talk about it. What is my secret? Will you tell me yours? Enough with the questions.....I struggle with anxiety and depression that's it. I feel so much better telling you now. I feel that I have always had it even as a young girl growing up and as I went though puberty it just got worse. My role models for women were my mom and grandmother and they were very negative too. I married and had my children young and down came the depression through post partum. I was in a place of extreme lows and did not know how to get back to who I thought I was. Over years of counselling and different types of meds I was a train wreck. In my mind I felt that the little blue pill would solve my problems and worries and I would be o.k. The pill never worked and I was extremely sick. I had two nervous breakdowns and hospitalized for both and even at my worse wanting to end my life. I was sick and my breaking point was my daughters. I wanted to be here for them and be a positive role model for them.
My marriage ended and I left with no money no job but with a vision for a better life without him.
Eight years now and living my life on my terms I am happy. And yes I am a life coach. I have been at my lowest and my life is a work in progress. I am thankful I had this disorder. It has taught me to be responsible for myself and my thoughts and which result in my actions. Stress turns into anxiety and if not prevented and treated can create havoc on your life and family. Whether you or someone you know struggles reach out for help don't isolate yourself and feel embarrassed. Anxiety is very common and you know we ALL have it!! Even the ones that you think have it all together. It's just a matter of looking  at it from what perspective. Seek the help you deserve and reach out.

A lesson from dad...

A year and a half ago cancer struck our family broadside and left us is ruins. My dad in his sixties very active retired and at the prime of his life. He never once complained of his health but never ignored it. He was diligent with his health and took care of himself. He had been complaing of fatigue and abdominal pain. After a couple weeks of feeling miserable he was brought by ambulance. His appendix had ruptured and when in surgery they found a piece that was abnormal and sent out for testing. The tests confirmed is was cancer and we were shocked. The piece was the size of your small pinky finger but yet they wanted him to receive treatment for preventative care. I don't consider myself a daddy's girl but have a good relationship with my dad. I was scared and so was my mom and brother. He underwent treatment for six months and now is cancer free. A great success story and I learned through his illness to live in the moment and to not live in the past or future. I wanted to help and be of support. He is very old fashioned and not a man for sentimental words but he was happy to know I was there. In a time of crisis how do react? Do you shut down and ignore what is going on or do you roll up your sleeves and dig in? This past month of October was his birthday. I was so happy that he was here with us to celebrate and we were able to have those memories. I love my dad and I am thankful. Even though Thanksgiving is around the corner I am thankful and grateful everyday.